Tuesday, May 20, 2014

2 weeks, 2 funerals, 5 states

    Charleston Riverdogs Joe Riley Stadium

When life throws you a massive curve ball, do you dig your heels into the turf and brace yourself to catch and carry on or do you find yourself caught off guard flailing for the fence, glove raised in hopeless desperation, praying for a miracle?
       
Grief can knock you sideways. In the past two weeks I've been to two funerals crossing five states - one planned and ceremonial, one sudden and tragic - and the two have left me stunned. Funerals have a way of placing a final note that helps those left behind begin to move forward but the grief we feel lingers and pervades our thoughts and daily lives in such a way that we forever after mark time in "before the death/after the death" order.

Through the process of grieving, the best book I've found that has truly helped when nothing else can is this  book of 365 days of  meditation written by a woman who lost her daughter at a young age and struggled through the first year of grief determined to somehow come out the other side. By all accounts, the first year is the most numbing and brutal and this book is a template on how to walk the walk. If you've never lost a loved one, file this away for a future time of need...


Returning home to Charleston, SC did drive one thing home... for the hundredth time I thanked my lucky stars that this beautiful place is where I choose to live.

Magnolia Cemetery- Charleston, SC                                                   photo: Kylie Sabine photography

   

2 comments:

  1. Thanks for this sensitive post, Leigh. I have heard about this book. Grief over a lost loved one is a journey no one is prepared for. I also love this headstone from Magnolia Cemetery. Simply beautiful.

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  2. Thank you, Dwight. Loss is devastating- hope this post helps someone else and thank you for taking a moment to comment.

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