Wednesday, August 21, 2013

on twins - this much I know is true

"It's different when you're a twin. It's complicated."
-from I Know This Much Is True by Wally Lamb

pluff mud kids twins - 3 hours old

Raising children is a constant guessing game. Just when you think you have an age or stage figured out, your child moves on to the next milestone and you're back to the drawing board trying to work out the next steps. Throw twins into the game and things get really interesting. Everything you read about twins seems to be true; they really do sometimes speak at the same time, read each others minds, switch entire personalities just when you think you've got them labeled, etc. Should they sleep in the same crib? Should they have their own rooms? Should they play the same sport and have the same friends? As parents, we make our choices one day at a time and hope for the best.

Today our twins separated for the first time in their lives, each one heading off to their own 4th grade class. How did we make the decision? Ultimately, we asked each one privately after mulling it for a very long time. Twin 1 said " I am afraid my brother will need me". Twin 2 said " I want to try to stand on my own. I just want to try".

At the end of the day, all we can do is raise them well and let them go. We have to give them the chance to try.

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